Congratulations! You're engaged to be married and if you're like most newly engaged couples, you're knee-deep in wedding planning. As exciting as this pre-wedding time can be, it can be stressful, too, and you might find yourself forgetting the "why" behind all of it. It's important to take a few breaks during the wedding planning process and focus as a couple on planning for how you both can build and sustain a strong marriage. planning.
1. Learn Each Other's Love Language
Everyone has a different way of giving love and of receiving love. Taking the time to understand your own personal love language and communicating this to each other can help to build a solid foundation of openness and understanding between you both as a couple. Not sure what your love language is? Take the quiz found at The 5 Love Languages website and learn more about yourself.
2. Learn Each Other's Money Language
Are you a spender or a saver? What about your partner? Understanding each other's attitudes, expectations, and emotional concerns about money is another key point of communication that can help you both enter marriage better prepared for the ups and downs of sharing a financial life. Take this quiz at Kiplinger and start a conversation as a couple.
3. Talk About Kids and Family
if you're a young couple engaged for a first marriage, it's a good idea to talk about the possibility of having children and what your hopes and dreams for a family may be. If this is a second marriage for either or both of you, there may be children from first marriages. Have an open and honest conversation about what your blended family will look like and how you will support each other as parents.
4. Get Away From It All
Venues and menus and music, oh my! Planning a wedding is like having a second job. Take a day to get away from it all and spend time as a couple just having fun and talking to each other with your cell phones turned off.
If you're hoping for a viral video moment at your first dance, take time to practice before the big day. You may even find that taking dance lessons is a great way to get ready and have some fun as a couple in the weeks before the wedding.
Your wedding will be a beautiful first day of the rest of your lives together. Spending time as a couple thinking and talking about what that life will be like is a solid investment in a solid marriage.